Got Proof?
Our reality is shaped by current and past beliefs. Our problem lies in our tendency to react to our current reality and reinforcing our same old beliefs, and the more you wait for proof the less likely you are to change your beliefs.
Take a moment to really comprehend this…
Take Risks!
Great things don't come without taking risks. If you can just trust that you will get the proof you need and take that leap of faith good things can happen. It takes courage to consciously choose to believe new empowering thoughts, but it is your way out of difficulty and disease and your way into joy, peace and ease. This means that you can choose what you want to believe without needing proof.
Take Responsibility!
Thoughts are a depressed persons worst nightmare. However, the truth is you are not your thoughts. Meditation teaches us to be like a pedestrian observing traffic and the traffic is your thoughts. You choose to stop and admire thought patterns without realizing it and meditation will help you refocus and realize you don't have to be a slave to negative thoughts and you can force those thoughts out of your mind. This takes a lot of practice but once you realize you are not your thoughts their power over you will slowly go away.
Focus on Solutions!
When most people are faced with a problem they have a tendency to get lost in the problem. It's important to keep in mind that the only way out of the problem is to find a solution. How you got the problem or what you could of done to avoid the problem will not help you fix the problem. So instead of focusing on what got you into your current dilemma, focus on what your going to do to get out of the dilemma. Once your problem is fixed, then you can focus on what got you into that mess and what you can do now to prevent getting into the same mess again.
Turn it around!
It's easy to find yourself focusing on what you don't want. Fear of pain has a tendency to make us focus on what we don't want to happen. However, when you do this you expend a lot of energy on negativity and will drag you down. Instead remember if you know what you don't want you also know what you do want. It sounds easy, but it does take time to get your mind to refocus itself but with time you can flip that negative thinking around and instead of letting your fear drag your focus to what you don't want you will let your hope focus you on what you do want.
Practice letting go!
As the Frozen song goes: Let it go. As we discussed meditation helps us understand that we are not our thoughts. So once we are aware of our negative thoughts we must practice letting them go by instead of stopping to admire them. You might also want to imagine putting the thought in a bubble and then popping the bubble.
Add a ‘Yet & Drop your ‘buts’
Negativity is intoxicating. So much so that when you say, 'I can't do something,' or I could do something, but you are telling your subconscious mind to not stop you from doing it. However, if you add a 'yet,' or replace that but with a 'yet,' you give yourself hope. When you say, 'I can't do it, yet,' you are telling your subconscious mind to prepare to do something challenging. Everyone knows if you face something challenging you are almost guaranteed to fail at least the 1st try. Most people will fail way more times than they succeed. Failure teaches us what not to do and helps us narrow down what we should do or what areas need to be strengthened in order for us to succeed. Success takes time and failure is inevitable. The true question is are you gonna add that yet and get back on that horse or are you gonna leave it off and stay in the mud.
It's your choice.
No Excuses & Set Boundaries!
There's an old saying, 'excuses are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink,' When you give yourself excuses you trap yourself in your old thinking. You may of heard people say, 'you can learn a lot about someone just by getting to know the people they hang around with,' Truth is if your hanging around with negative people then you are giving your subconscious the green light to mimic your peers and accept excuses. Find more positive people to be around and distance yourself from the toxic people. Setting boundaries isn't something a lot of people to do especially when its close family or lifelong friends, but your mental health must be #1. So, if their negativity is enabling you to accept excuses then its time for some boundaries and distance.
Saturate your mind!
Yes, there is a lot of negativity out there whether you watch the news or just watch your neighborhood, its easy to find some negativity. However, its important to saturate your mind with positive things such as; youtubes, tic toc's, meme's, books, music, positive people – anything that makes you feel good and moves you in the direction of focusing on the positive.
Practice imagining!
Imagination is something we humans take for granted. It's what takes a child from an empty room with a few toys to a magical land of make believe. It's thinking about all the things you can do when you punch out for the day. It's what life could be like if that one thing hadn't of happened. (got a little dark there) sorry, but it's important to understand that to a depressed person your imagination is your biggest fear, because most days you can only imagine what its like after you die. Truth is you won't know until it happens, and you have too much to do to find out anytime soon, and as dark as your imagination can go I guarantee you it can go equally light. I know it sounds impossible when your drowning in your sorrows that the only tool you need to get out is a little positive imagination, but you'd be surprised at what a little positive imagination can do for your mental stability.
Positive Questions!
The best thing to do when your at the bottom is to ask yourself questions, such as, 'What is the best that can happen?' or 'what can be done to improve this situation?' This will help pull your mind away from the negative talk and allow your positive thoughts to take over. Setting goals can be a good way to stop the negative thoughts in their tracks, 'Yes, I am fat and I make too many excuses as to why I can't fix that. However, with patience, determination, and positive thinking, I can achieve my weight loss goal.' make a list of issues that are preventing you from accomplishing your goal and be honest with yourself about how you can eliminate each issue. Change takes time and its important not to overwhelm yourself and remember failure happens. reset yourself and re-evaluate your goals if need be and set as many small goals as possible. It may seem silly to celebrate what most would consider a lame goal, but its not about them its about you. By celebrating you are reinforcing that positivity inside you and pushing your subconscious towards more positivity and less negativity.
Others!
Helping others is by far one of the most rewarding thing ever. Now I know most of you upon reading that rolled your eyes and called, 'BS,' but hear me out. Instead of feeling sorry for someone, we think about all the ways we could help that person. It could be as simple as giving them spare change or a ride, or it could be as big as offering to help them get back on their feet. At first thinking is all your gonna do and that's fine. However, over time your gonna find yourself brave enough to actually do something positive for someone not because they can do something for you, simply because they need help and you have the opportunity to help them. Self-less acts of good deeds have a way of teaching us things. When we act out of love and don't expect a return on our investment we truly understand why we are hear. Helping others better themselves is a very noble thing to do. Not for the money, fame, or any return on your investment. Simply because deep down we know we could be that person and we would want someone to help us too. More often than not we will find ourselves learning things about ourselves we never realized and even teaching ourselves lessons as we help others on a better path.
Isn’t this ‘Pollyanna’ thinking?
Yes, of course it is! Pollyanna was a fictional character who saw the good in everyone and everything and as a result she transformed an entire town from dreary to full of life. The point is, the irrepressible optimism of ‘Pollyanna Philosophy’ absolutely works! Whatever you focus on you create more of – so why focus on what you don't want? Why not change your perspective and look for the good in everyone and everything? Yes, sometimes you do have to look deeper than the surface, but it is always there, and you will find it if you really look.
Miracles are ready to blossom in even the most discouraging of circumstances.
The Mind!
Your mind is priceless technology that when used properly can attract and create the most amazing experiences, but you must take the captain's seat. No one can do it for you. You must do it for yourself. Yes, it might take some time, but time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well utilize that time to find your way to a path that will take you where you want to go – a path that will free you from depression and grant you access to joy, peace, wellness and abundance.
It is a path worth taking!
Nanice Ellis
When we find ourselves down in the dumps, it's essential to connect with the part of us that feels the emotional or physical pain in order to gain greater understanding of our needs.
This can be achieved through the following exercise. Get ready to do some free flow writing. This activity is best done by using the non-dominant hand for writing or typing, which will help slow down brain processing and access resources and greater insight from the body and mind. Ask the part of you that is in pain ( the inner critic, control freak, the anxious or afraid part) these questions. They are a phenomenal start to bringing greater compassion into our lives and allowing more of our authentic selves to unfold. Spend some time engaging with the shadow self this way and soon healthier ways of meeting personal needs will be uncovered. This is an intimate exercise of stepping into one's true power with the recognition that all aspects of our experience are opportunities for growth, expansion and more joy!
Spend time with each question. Avoid thinking about the words and just let them flow onto the paper. Go ahead, give the exercise a go! The results may help to create inspiration and deeper wholeness.
